When speaking up to my boss, I risk the prospect of advancing my career. Stepping on others’ toes, especially in Asian society (where I envision myself to primarily engage with in the future), is something that is frowned upon. Individuals are much less confrontational in these collectivist societies compared to individualist societies such as the US. On the other hand, if I accept an ethically dubious task, I risk losing sense of my moral compass. I would have a gnawing sense of guilt that may persist beyond the task’s lifespan. Further, I risk putting the company in jeopardy; in the intern’s case, for instance, misrepresenting themselves to get more responses may reflect badly upon the company if this information gets leaked.
In navigating this dilemma, I can follow this plan:
- 1) First, realize how psychologically difficult — and worthwhile — speaking up can be.
- If I were in this situation, I would weigh out the pros and cons of each decision I could take. If I spoke up, what consequences would it have towards my career trajectory? What about the growth of the country?
- 2) Second, work to lessen the social threat that speaking up creates.
- I would send an email that really emphasizes how going against my boss’ orders is in the best interest of everyone. I would emphasize the word “we”, making it clear that this is not about my own discomfort but rather for the sake of the country.
- 3) Make a plan.
- Additionally, I would think about the responses of my boss and other colleagues, and how I would respond to them or navigate each situation.
